Misconception of Passion

Misconception of Passion

The mistake that we make is that we define passion to be the ‘thing’ we’re interested in. So we’ll say stuff like ‘my passion is music’, or ‘my passion is business”. But thats not what passion is. We confuse passion to be the ‘interest’, when in fact they’re two separate entities. Passion is a capacity that we’re all born with. So when people say they want to ‘find or discover their passion’, what they’re really saying is they want to find the interest that will ignite the passion laying dormant inside them.

The Passionate Life is a workshop that will give you a completely different perspective on passion. It will show you how passion at its core is designed to take our lives to the next level, if we learn how to tap into it.

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The Root of Patience

We believe that patience is the ability to wait, but I think its deeper than that. Patience comes from the Latin word ‘pati’, which means to suffer or endure. So patience isn’t just an ability to wait, its an ability to suffer. Knowing that something is for you, and having to suffer everyday without it until its finally yours. So no wonder patience is a virtue not possessed by many, because it takes strength, hope and determination.

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Leadership 101: Part 1

So I’ve decided to drop a little insight for aspiring leaders. Enjoy

1.  Make Others Feel Safe to Speak-Up

Many times leaders intimidate their colleagues with their title and power when they walk into a room.   Successful leaders deflect attention away from themselves and encourage others to voice their opinions.  They are experts at making others feel safe to speak-up and confidently share their perspectives and points of view.   They use their executive presence to create an approachable environment.

2.  Make Decisions

Successful leaders are expert decision makers.    They either facilitate the dialogue to empower their colleagues to reach a strategic conclusion or they do it themselves.  They focus on “making things happen” at all times – decision making activities that sustain progress.   Successful leaders have mastered the art of politicking and thus don’t waste their time on issues that disrupt momentum.  They know how to make 30 decisions in 30 minutes.

Courtesy of http://www.forbes.com

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Leadership Series

Leadership Series

I find that in many companies today, there are a lot of great managers (and poor ones), but also some really horrible leaders. I often say that we blur the line between management and leadership. They are not the same.

I work for a company that focuses on training managers and does nothing with developing the leader in them. Granted not everyone may have what it takes to be an effective leader, but I believe that there are certain principles of leadership that many people can apply on the job, especially those in management positions.

At my workplace, I got tired of complaining that there are no effective leaders within the company and for the most part there are just mediocre managers. So I decided to launch a program, that focused on developing leaders within my restaurant, and not just training people to become managers. And because I primarily work with young people it is great that leadership skills are being instilled in them at this point in there life.

I’ve decided to open this program up to other managers that want to make that transition from being mediocre managers or bosses to effective leaders. Simply because, as companies begin to tap into the potential of their people more and more, managers need to learn to manage talent and inspire action; not demand it. And that is at the cornerstone of leadership.

More details to follow as to locations, and I’m going to try and make sure it will be free of charge. 🙂

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Believe In Yourself

Believe In Yourself

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The Perils of Youth

The Perils of Youth

I had an interesting conversation with an older gentleman. He asked me ‘why are young people so lazy?’ I got upset. I asked him ‘have you ever woken up one morning, knowing you didn’t have much to do, so you decided to just stay in bed a little longer and relax?’ He said ‘yea’. I asked, has there ever been a time when you knew you were going to do something really fun the next day so you could barely sleep, cause you were anticipating a day full of excitement? He said ‘yea’.

I told him to imagine waking up every morning in a state where you don’t feel like you have much to look forward too for that day. A state where you’re not woken up by excitement. I then went on to say that most young people aren’t lazy! They’re unmotivated. Give that person something that aligns with their interest or passion, and watch how productive they become. Yesterday I possibly had the most laziest day in my life. Simply because I decided to do less work than I normally do. It was the worse feeling ever!!! I felt so unmotivated. I spent the whole day doing nothing, but still felt tired. Huhhhh??? But this is the life some young people live daily. And it’s because they are not living for anything they’re willing to die for. Nothing drives them. And we assume the solution should be found in school. Really? These young people aren’t lazy, they’re unmotivated.

I’m definitely not discounting the value in school, but what I am discounting is the perception that school is a solution for most of what young people will go through, when the reality is it’s not. School is not designed to develop young people, it is designed to train them and educate them. And what’s happening is young people are getting lost between the cracks. Parents are relying on school to give their child what they need. They have a mindset of ‘if my child is in school, they will turn out just fine’, so the parents don’t invest much time into developing their child, they leave it up to the schools. And then the child gets to school and school says ‘it’s not my responsibility to ‘develop’ your child, I’m here to train and educate them’. Hmm…so they’re not being developed at home, and they’re not being developed at school. So where are they being developed. They’re not! Who’s teaching them how to handle stress? No one. Who’s teaching them a more effective way to deal with their problems? Maybe TV, movies or friends? Who’s actually developing these young people? I met this young girl who cuts her forearm, to deal with stress and to numb emotional pain. She’s not suicidal. She just doesn’t know how to handle stress and emotional pain. And she’s not the only one. I’ve met more like her. Its called ‘self-harm’ look it up.


I use to think it was all in the parenting, and that the parents were the ones who should take responsibility for the development of their child. That they should be the one to teach them how to manage money, teach them how to handle stress, etc etc. Teach them everything school doesn’t, but I see it differently now. Why is all the responsibility being placed on the parents? As if they don’t spend more time at school than with their parents. I talk to young people who tell me they maybe see their parents for a couple of hours a day. Parents have to work. The child has school and sometimes a part-time job. Why can school not be revamped to support the development of these young people and not just the education?

Thousands of dollars are spent annually to create curriculum’s that educate and train young people and children on how to do particular tasks. Why can’t we put more money into actually developing these young people? As if training me for a particular occupation, is more important than developing me into a better person. Development is of course a form of education, but relaying facts isn’t development. My point is this, at the inception of the ‘compulsory education system’, the family dynamic was completely different. The structure at home was completely different now. In most cases, only the man was working. And now that the family dynamic has changed dramatically where both parents are working, most grandmothers and grandfathers don’t live with their daughters or sons. So the ‘education system’ needs to be revamped to accommodate this. Year after year the key things that are changing within the system are facts, textbooks, computers or better put; things that support the relaying of information, but not what is being taught itself. We’re trying to use the same tool that was used in the late 1800’s, the same way today. But it’s silly because how many tools do we still use from the late 1800s?

I believe young people need school, but just not the way school is right now. It needs to transition from an education and training system, to an education and development platform. And that will only happen when the objectives of schools to create good employees and obedient citizens changes. And this is exactly why I am developing an afterschool program that focuses on development, in hopes that it will eventually become a course offered and then built into the school system itself. It’s a little ambitious yes, but it’s possible. Especially because there’s a shift happening, where employers now want people who are more motivated.

Lastly, we’re telling young people that “This – pointing at school – is what needs to drive you. This is what should wake you up in the morning. This is what you need to live for, because if you get a good education, you’ll get a good job, and your family will be happy”. We are telling them what needs to motivate them, rather than paying attention to what they are inclined to do or what naturally or actually motivates them and then teach them how to use school to pursue it. So what if we took a different approach? What if we stopped expecting young people to be motivated or driven by school, but taught them how to use school as leverage to pursue what actually motivates them? Or help them to see school as a way to unlock their passion? Where they’re no longer just chasing the degree, but they are chasing the knowledge, and the degree becomes a byproduct of that. What if we get them to see the bigger picture. Where school isn’t just a destination, but rather a tool that you have access too?

I’m not enrolled in a university, but sometimes I’ll still drop in on classes when I have the time, because it’s the knowledge I’m after, not the degree. But it’s also because I’m motivated by something other than school. School and education is apart of my bigger picture, but it isn’t my bigger picture. We need to stop expecting these young people to be motivated by school. I’m really asking you (border line begging you, all of you) to ask a high school student why they’re in school. There is a problem that our young people are facing and it’s so much bigger than laziness or ADD. They are falling through the cracks of society.

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Passion Testimony | Your story has the power to inspire

Passion Testimony | Your story has the power to inspire

Come to Dreams & Cocktails with your Passion Testimony. Guests will have the opportunity to share the story and journey behind their passion. They will get a chance to open up about obstacles, share some advice with things they may have overcome, talk about where they want to go next and allow their story to inspire others.

If you don’t want to give your Passion Testimony that’s no problem, but remember that someone could be stuck in a rut and your story may be what inspires them to overcome.

Too often we minimize the power behind our stories, but perhaps what you went through to discover your passion was something very similar to what I’m going through? But I can’t seem to figure it out. Don’t underestimate your passion testimony. It’s about creating an environment of support and inspiration. Share your Passion Testimony at Dreams & Cocktails.

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The Power of Motivation

I love this TEDTalk. Very powerful and very moving.

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Inspirational Moment

Inspirational Moment

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Passion Unveiled

If you believe you’re living, think again!

Share this video! Let’s keep the inspiration moving.

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